Couples Therapist

A Couples Therapist Can Help You Feel Close Again

What happened to your love? It seems like it took a back seat to everything else - work, family, responsibilities.

You were once so close. But now so much has changed.

Intimacy now feels like a distant memory. You miss the kind of closeness you once shared. The laughter, the inside jokes, the way you could read each other’s thoughts with just a glance — is gone.

Touch feels awkward now.

Nights are spent back-to-back, scrolling through your phones, each of you pretending not to notice how far apart you’ve drifted.


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It’s lonely, being together but not together.

Somewhere along the way, you stopped being “us.” You became two people living parallel lives, roommates more than partners.

You both want to fix it, but you don’t know where to start.

Every attempt feels clumsy, like trying to solve a puzzle with missing pieces.

Sometimes it feels easier to avoid it altogether—to stay busy, to focus on work, to pretend everything’s fine.

But the ache is always there, just beneath the surface, a constant reminder of what you’ve lost.

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You long to feel that magic you once had

You think about the way you used to be, the way you used to look at each other with so much love, but it feels like a different lifetime.

You want that back. You want to find your way back to "us".

But right now, you've tried everything and it feels like you’re speaking different languages, each of you too tired or too scared to try harder.
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If this sounds at all like you and your partner, don't give up hope.

Maintaining a healthy, intimate, connected satisfying relationship can be challenging. And once a relationship is suffering, it's really difficult to repair by yourselves.

You know this - you've tried just about everything!

You've tried everything - except couples therapy

With the help of a couple therapist, you and your partner can navigate the ups and downs of your relationship. You can move towards finding true happiness once again together.

A couples therapist is a trained professional who specializes in helping couples improve their communication, resolve conflicts, and deepen their emotional connection.

They provide a safe and supportive environment where both partners can express their feelings and concerns without judgment.

A couples therapist can help you and your partner strengthen your bond and build a solid foundation for a lasting relationship.

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Whether you're experiencing communication breakdowns, trust issues, or simply want to enhance the overall quality of your relationship, a couples therapist can provide the guidance and tools you need.

You'll learn to understand each other's needs, validate your partner's emotions, and work together towards a happier and more fulfilling partnership.

Investing in the support of a couple therapist is an investment in the health and longevity of your relationship. Take the first step towards a happier future together. Consider seeking the assistance of a couples therapist today.

The Importance of Relationship Counselling

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Going for relationship counselling can be a big relief. It gives you a special dedicated space and a scheduled time to work on improving your relationship, in a way that feels good for both of you.

Couples therapy is a process where each partner is heard and valued. A good couples therapist will listen carefully to each of you, and is there to support the relationship - NOT to say one person is right and one is wrong.

Couples counselling teaches you to have better communication. It also builds deep understanding between the two of you. So important for a healthy partnership!
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It's a great way to get to know one another better, and to appreciate each other. When you have been together for awhile, it's easy to take one another for granted. Couples therapy can bring back understanding, empathy, caring, respect, communication. connection and intimacy.

Couples counselling isn't just for fixing problems. It's also a proactive approach to relationships. Instead of waiting for issues to escalate into major conflicts, you can seek guidance early on.

This allows you to identify and address problems before they become deeply entrenched, ultimately saving the relationship from potential breakdown. In fact, just by actively engaging in counselling, you demonstrate your commitment to one another. This is turn strengthens your willingness and ability to work through difficulties together.
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How does it work?

In couples therapy, both partners are encouraged to share their perspectives and feelings in a safe, non-judgmental space.

The couples therapist acts as a neutral facilitator, guiding discussions and helping partners speak about their own their needs and desires.

This allows each partner insight into the other’s experiences. It's a process that fosters empathy and emotional intimacy. As the therapy progresses, couples learn to communicate more effectively, enhancing their ability to resolve conflicts constructively.

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Each approach offers unique tools and strategies tailored to the couple's specific needs. By using these methods, a couple therapist can assist you in developing healthier interaction patterns, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling relationship.

Benefits of Couples Therapy

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Do you dream of spending your whole life together with your special someone?

Learning how to communicate, manage conflict in a healthy way, how to give and accept love and how to be kind , respectful and vulnerable makes staying together happily for a long time possible.

The benefits of couples therapy include that feeling of special togetherness, the deepening of relationship made possible through enhanced dedication, communication and improved understanding of each other's needs & desires.
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Couples therapy can get you back on track

It's always better to recognize and fix issues before they escalate and make matters worse. It's the same with couples therapy.

One common sign you many benefit from couples therapy is lack of communication or persistent communication breakdowns.

If you and your partner find it hard to talk about important topics without arguing or feeling misunderstood, or you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells, it may be time to seek professional help.

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Maybe you both feel uneasy with conflict and often avoid areas of difference instead of talking them out - until the whole issue explodes. Effective communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, and ongoing struggles in this area can lead to emotional distance and resentment.

Another sign that couples therapy may be beneficial is a decrease in emotional or physical intimacy. If you and your partner feel more like roommates than romantic partners, it could mean you are not paying enough attention to intimacy and romantic connection and possibly taking one another for granted. Seeking a couples therapist can be a great first step in exploring the underlying causes of this disconnect and working towards rebuilding your emotional bond.
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Additionally, if trust issues have arisen in your relationship, it is essential to consider couple therapy.

Whether due to infidelity, dishonesty, or breaches of trust, these situations can create significant rifts between partners.

A couples therapist can assist in addressing the root causes of trust issues. They can promote healing, new patterns of connection, respect, transparency and accountability.

How a Couples Therapist Can Help You Bring the Love Back

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Remember how it once was? When your relationship was great?

Maybe you can get that back. Or maybe you can be even closer.

A couples therapist helps partners strengthen their relationship by providing guidance, support, and effective tools for improvement. Not every relationship can (or should) be saved, but many can be.

One of the main ways a therapist can help is to facilitate difficult conversations and discussions between partners.

By creating a safe environment, the therapist enables each of you to express thoughts and feelings openly, promoting empathy and understanding. Furthermore, this enhanced communication helps you reconnect and rebuild your emotional intimacy.

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Moreover, a couple therapist assists in identifying and addressing negative patterns within the relationship. Many couples fall into cycles of behavior that can perpetuate conflict and dissatisfaction.

A therapist can help you recognize these patterns, providing insights into how past experiences contribute to current issues. By bringing awareness to these dynamics, you can work together to create healthier alternatives, ultimately strengthening your bond.

Additionally, a couple therapist teaches practical skills that couples can apply outside of therapy sessions.

These skills may include effective communication techniques, conflict resolution strategies, and tools for fostering physical and emotional intimacy.

Counselling in Fernie
Your Couples Therapist:
Virginia Purcell MSc Clinical Psychology
Canadian Certified Psychotherapist CCC#10002505

Couples counselling online or in-person with couples therapist in Fernie BC from the comfort of your home in Alberta, British Columbia or anywhere else in Canada.